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Of course you should understand what you are getting into before marriage and prepare also for a possible breakup.

But I don't find this "she took my money" to be a reasonable attitude.

Both parties have responsabilities in a marriage. Maybe the other party didn't make as much money (or made no money at all), but taking care of the house and kids is work too. It also enables the person with a job to concentrate on their carreer.

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This is based on a lot of assumptions. First that there are children. Second, that one of the parties actually put forth effort to raise the children.

> "She took my money"

You realize gender is irrelevant now, right? My friend is a VP at a medical device manufacturer and had my situation in reverse. It doesn't just affect men.

Somehow I doubt your friend would look at these commenters and consider them to be fellow travelers. There does seem to be an undercurrent of hostility to women in some of them.

The point of the advice is to come up with a reasonable division of responsibilities that work for your partnership, rather than accepting the default agreement handed to you by the state without even understanding what it is.

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