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All of the women I dated I met in lower pressure situations like at work or school and the relationship just developed naturally. I never tried to force it. I met my wife at work while in college (so it wasn't a professional level job). Trying to meet women at a bar or club seems too high pressure and too much like a game so I never understood guys who did that. I'm a huge nerd and would never be able to make bars and clubs work anyway.

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To add to this, put yourself in more of these lower pressure situations. Find social clubs (sports clubs where the members meet up socially as well is my preference) that you _enjoy_ on their own. If you meet someone that's great, but if you have fun you still have gained even if you don't meet someone. Do this enough and just stay open.

This. Just this. I met my wife on a 2 week group vacation (sight seeing in Africa). Basically low pressure but with lot of interaction. We liked each other and started seeing each other after the vacation. End of story. Bars and clubs never worked for me, sport did though :-)

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