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I am the girl who filed the report. this is MY story. [name redacted] did not strangle me. We had a lovers’ quarrel. No one got injured. The police grossly exaggerated the story, and have since revised my account after I called them out on it. I have been working with the prosecutor’s office to get the charges dropped. Please respect our privacy.

Please do not spur on rumors and conspiracy theories, and use my case as your own vendetta, [name redacted]. You have defamed [name redacted] all over the internet, posting every 15 minutes, contacting his employer, coworkers, family, and friends. This is not sane. [name redacted] has a big heart, is so incredibly caring, fun, open-minded, and has invented numerous revolutionary programs to change the world and help others, which I imagine are reasons why [name redacted], you loved him, too.

I saw your messages begging [name redacted] to come back to you and that you loved him… Please, for your own sake, see a counselor and learn to move on, heal, and find someone who loves you the way you deserve and want to be loved.

It’s ironic, [name redacted], that you call [name redacted] abusive when you have been so psychologically abusive and violent to him the past 2.5 years as you have been incessantly stalking him, defaming him, his company, his friends and associates, family. Your vindictive behavior and evil desire to ruin him is psychologically violent and abusive. Who really is the abusive one?

Before you stalk someone who you desperately love but he doesn’t love you back, remember just one thing. You are wasting your precious time and energy. Use your efforts to make yourself better. Love is not about being desperate. You need to accept the fact and take time for yourself to grieve the pain that it’s over and work on your own happiness. Let [name redacted] go, and focus on building up yourself instead of tearing [name redacted] down because at the end of the day, all you have is yourself, you will never leave you. And you can’t love anyone until you love yourself. Work on own your emotional health. Your behavior is not healthy and not something anyone, your parents, your employer, God, would be proud of. Examine your own self and how you can be a better person. Your vendetta helps nobody. YOu're not protecting women from [name redacted]. You're only trying to ruin him because he hurt you and didn't love you back the way you loved him. And you're actually just "humble bragging" about how you dated a successful guy who had remote interest in you for 2-3 months, then dumped you. You're youngWould you be on this vindictive rampage and bragging all over the internet if it was someone not semi-famous? Who are you really trying to protect? Your story is your story and your own lesson you need to learn. Stay out of mine. Move on, find a new relationship, and find a man who reciprocates the love you seek.

[name redacted] sexually assaulted me and emotionally abused me.

[name redacted] stalked me for weeks at my home while having me blocked which prompted me to reach out again from a different number.

He clearly did not want me to move on and sent several messages stating he was in love with me but needed me to “change.”

That change was accepting verbal, emotional abuse, infidelity, and sexual assault as well as giving up all my hobbies and friendships.

The abuse was so brutal, I could not believe someone that said they loved me so profoundly would do those things to me.

Perhaps he’s found someone that’s willing to accept abuse, but that’s not what the law says.

The discrepancies between what you describe here, what's in the report, and what you previously claimed on social media paint the picture that one of the following is true:

1. You got paid a bunch of money to drop the charges and "revise" your story, which potentially was your plan from the get-go

2. The story was never true in the first place, you just wanted to ride the cancel culture train and get back at him for hurting you in some way.

Whichever it is, it's really sad to see these things. People like you are exactly why I keep a low profile and don't have any online identities.

Honestly, this feels like stuff [name redacted] would say, but I can’t say for sure.

[name redacted] had an intense focus on love and being loved when it came to control.

He asked me to marry him after only knowing him a month, which I declined. We hadn’t even slept together at that point.

According to his own account, the “love” he shoved down my throat so hard was so he could sleep with me, which I have several texts that show his own admissions.

Also I’m a bit taken aback at the ethnic slur in the username of this account.

[name redacted] sexually assaulted me and emotionally abused me.

[name redacted] stalked me for weeks at my home while having me blocked which prompted me to reach out again. He clearly did not want me to move on and sent several messages stating he was in love with me but needed me to “change.”

That change was accepting verbal, emotional abuse, infidelity, and sexual assault as well as giving up all my hobbies and friendships.

The abuse was so brutal, I could not believe someone that said they loved me so profoundly would do those things to me.

Perhaps he’s found someone that’s willing to accept abuse, but that’s not what the law says.

And your situation has no bearing on the violence and abuse that I and several other women have endured at his hands.

Ok you and who else? Are you going to use another woman to side with your vendetta against him to try to cancel him and get him fired?

They want to remain anonymous, but their accounts will be used as evidence if necessary.

Uh huh

You need to leave me alone or I will call the police for harassment.

Do not contact me.

I do not wish for you to communicate with me further.

Let's also not forget that you accused him of strangling you on twitter as well.

It was not strangling. You don’t know what happened, so please stay out of it. It’s not your case. And no, I didn’t lie. It was misconstrued. Read what I said— i had the police redact the report bc they inflated what I said.

Then why did you say "[name redacted] strangled me too" on my post about [name redacted] strangling me?

It wasn’t strangling, once again, not the way you think it was. We both got heated, but no one was physically dangerously hurt nor close to death. It’s not your story. Stay out of my story. Quit telling my story as your story and using it for your own vendetta. Focus on YOU and how you can be happy and not obsessed with the past.

Heated 52 days after the incident?

Lol you counted the days. We got heated the day the incident occurred. It did not occur at the time you posted on twitter. Quit twisting my words once again for your own malicious vendetta. You line up to the adage, “Hell hath no fury like a women scorned.” Unrequited love is hard. But the sooner you forgive Alex and move on, the sooner you’ll be happy. You haven’t been happy for 2 years since you guys broke up. Maybe get a therapist or go on tinder or bumble? Meet new people. Meet a guy who loves you the way you want to be loved . I pray that for you

Counting days is relevant to the amount of time the story too to change from “strangling” to recanting the police report.

It’s called documenting and understanding the facts.

I’m not interested in mental health advice from a DV apologist that can’t get the facts straight or count.

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