Is 74Kb really a cause for concern on modern internet connections?That depends on how you define what a modern Internet connection is. If you mean a fast, low latency, unmetered connection then 74kb is obviously fine.
If you mean a 4G connection on a train, or a metered rural satellite connection, or a typically-low-income-user pay-for-data connection, or even a fast cheap Internet connection but with a low-end device that will waste a lot of battery power parsing and running all that JS code, then it's a lot less obvious.
Most of the time you don't know who the user is, so it's best to assume the worst case. If your site works well when things aren't ideal then it'll be awesome when they are good too. Only thinking about the happy path of users with M1 Macbooks with unlimited gigabit ethernet will mean everyone else has a sucky time on your site.
Also, if someone posts your site on HN, most of the comments will be about how bad the code is and you'll miss out on feedback that's actually useful. If you're deploying a 74kb date library, think of your karma.