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Introducing yourself to your neighbours is too "weird" for you?

Well, revealed preferences I guess. Best of luck. I enjoy chatting to my neighbours and I'd have no issue with them popping in for a cup of tea.

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Yes it is. People don't do that. No one goes through apartment complex knocking on doors and introducing themselves. By no one I literally means no one. And it is not a thing that would be done in the past either.

It's interesting that we can have such different life experiences.

Well, me and my neighbours are happy to be weird in your view. You do you. I don't think you're weird btw, just less social I guess?

> I don't think you're weird btw, just less social I guess?

It's not the GP being less social - it's their neighbours as well.

They said other people don't knock, which is what make it seem like it would come over as a weird if they did it themselves.

That chimes with my experience. In ~25 years of living in many different places, I don't think I've ever had my door knocked on by neighbours for an introduction or friendly chat. Only by people I already know, and that's rare too. (I don't live near anyone that I know).

So I wouldn't knock on a neighbour's door. I'd feel uncomfortable, intruding on other people's private lives.

It's not like I'm not social. I like people and would probably enjoy knowing my neighbours better. (Though not during this pandemic - I haven't mingled indoors anywhere since March 2020).

But it seems like every little group of people (most are houseshares) keeps to themselves.

You've spent two years not socializing but you like socializing?

Well, that's enough HN for today. Merry Christmas.

For someone who claims to be social, you are quite intent on misinterpreting what people said to you. Given that you lie and misinterpret the comment I can see right here, should I really trust that you live in such different environment from the rest of us?

I didn't say I haven't socialized. I said I haven't mingled indoors.

It takes a narrow viewpoint to think those are the same.

Unironically using the term "mingling indoors" is an indicator that you're sufficiently far gone down the corona rabbit hole that it's pointless for us to discuss further because we see the world in completely different ways.

More value would be derived from discussing climate change with a Martian.

We could hash it out over a pint at the pub, but you don't mingle indoors see, so...

Sorry, but I think this is a bit comical, I don't have the patience for such farce.

Where I live all the pubs have outdoor areas and table service, and frankly that's a nicer experience for hanging out with mates than being cramped in line at the bar anyway.

Not mingling indoors does not preclude pubs, socialising or hanging out with people in person.

I see from your comment history that you really enjoyed the commutes, going to an office job with others in the s/w industry. I'm like you in that regard: I was excited to start a job commuting into London on a daily train, because I really enjoy that part, the travel, the people, the vibe of the crowds. It's an excellent time to break out a book. I'd spent too long doing WFH and wanted a job in an office.

But things changed. You don't know my circumstances, but suffice to say my family faced a realistically high chance of death or disability if they got Covid due to particular pre-existing conditions. So of course I'd be a selfish arsehole if I carried on a commute in those circumstances.

I'm sorry for your loss, but I stand by the concept that this now means you're not really able to contribute to a discussion on how most people socialise because you've self excluded from it.

> socialise because you've self excluded from it.

How on earth did you get from "does not preclude pubs, socialising, or hanging out with people" to "you've self excluded"? Bizarre.

OOC how often do other neighbors knock on your door just to say hi/introduce themselves?

This seemed somewhat common growing up in the suburbs, but I think has literally never happened in my adult life in a city.

Usually it happens when new people move in, so a few times a year.

It's more common for us to meet in the street e.g. say hi whilst someone is at their front door.

To be fair I don't live in a megablock, they're not that common in London, most people I know live in converted townhouses which only have a few flats in them.

e.g. https://i.pinimg.com/originals/01/9e/b9/019eb97dd77c0dc3191e...

usually they're smaller than this.

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