you've assumed the premise without even knowing it and it's doubly ironic because it didn't occur to you exactly because of what you represent in your first comment.
here's the answer that didn't occur to you because you just assumed you were right: lol what rejections and terrible suffering and pain?
i'm recently married but during all of the time i dated (>15 years since high school) i had maybe one or two rejections at all (and none to speak of that were painful). and i had 2 relationships a year over that time (on average - college was college...).
you know why? well for one because i did exactly what this person you responded to suggested: never objectified women and was always confident about my merits. the other thing i never did was treat dating like some kind of obsession or game, so never did i "swing for the fences".
>Cam Newton
coincidentally enough i went to college at UF and my time overlapped with Cam Newton's. if he's the guy that is a symbol of success for you (even metaphorically) in this domain then ho boy you have bigger problems than just dating.