I’ll offer four books.
-> “Getting things done” -> Dry as hell, but useful for basic organization and “adulting”.
-> “Essentialism” and “Make Time” -> prioritization
-> “Four Thousand Weeks” -> perspective
Life is trade-offs. The thing you are doing at this very moment (reading this comment) has been prioritized over everything else in your life. Analyzing everything this way can be exhausting and can lead you to beat yourself up, but it’s good to keep in mind at a high level.
When I say “they don’t” do it all, I mean anyone you see doing anything is, by definition, not doing everything. They are doing that one thing. A few people can do a lot of different things in a day and keep a lot of plates spinning, but there is a natural breadth vs. depth trade off.
I would encourage you to not try to do it all, but explicitly make trade offs for your time (e.g. hiring a house cleaner, ordering in from restaurants, getting a nanny if you and your spouse both want to work). Whatever your comfort is for that sort of thing, there’s nothing to be ashamed of for bringing in help to keep life moving. The best people have teams helping them get things done. Whatever your pain point is, throw resources at it. These will change over time.
Time != Energy. There are baseline skills (diet, exercise, sleep) that are force multipliers and have a positive ROI on Energy. There are things that have a highly negative ROI. Finding both for you is useful.
You will never “get there”, even if everything is perfect. Change is constant, and living is staying current and adapting with the change.
As Willie Nelson said, “All we have is right now”. That took me a long time to get.
As Bill Gates said, “We underestimate what we can accomplish in a year and overestimate what we can accomplish in a day.”
““You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” - Wayne Gretzky” - Michael Scott
And Warren Buffet says to write down your top 25 priorities, and absolutely do everything you can to avoid the bottom 20, focusing only on the top 5.