You’re talking about using gigawatts of power, and detectors that weigh in at thousands of tons, in order to send a signal best measured in bits per decade. It’s an idiotic suggestion; fiber optics beat anything based on neutrinos hands–down. Authors who make their aliens use neutrino communications are idiots. But that’s ok, most authors are idiots, and most of them stopped taking physics in high school. Authors who take physics seriously are quite rare, even in the science fiction genre.
If you want a book written by someone who knows some real physics, read The Clockwork Rocket by Greg Egan. He changed one simple law of physics, worked out the consequences for quantum mechanics and relativity, made up some plausible–enough biology, and wrote a series of books in the resulting universe. The characters in the book have to discover or teach each other those laws, so the book is actually a pretty decent way to learn something of the laws of our own universe too. He wrote a huge amount of supplementary material as well, going into all the details. Truly an astounding accomplishment.