FWIW, I didn’t read the top comment as saying anything about the TCP format being arbitrary. I could be wrong, but wearing my glasses with benefit-of-the-doubt strongest-plausible-interpretation lenses, here’s what I see above. It’s two separate clauses in the last sentence:
> It's not like there's an intrinsic reason TCP packets are the way they are now
This to me invokes the idea of mathematical intrinsic properties. For example the idea of the number zero didn’t always exist, but to this day we don’t have multiple representations or any alternatives. Something about the number zero feels intrinsic. Addition, multiplication, derivatives and integrals seem like operations that might have different notations, but are unchanging intrinsic concepts. TCP formats don’t seem to share this intrinsicness. It is in that sense that I agree with the top comment; there is nothing intrinsic about the TCP format, it is the result of conscious engineering choices, and today there are reasonable alternatives. In this sense I see your argument as supporting this idea that there’s nothing intrinsic about TCP.
> it's largely an arbitrary choice that we standardized on.
The word “arbitrary” was applied to the choice of standard, not the format. I’m choosing to see a second, different idea in that second clause. I see how and why it implies the format itself is being called arbitrary to you and others, but my defense of the comment is based on interpreting it differently than what you saw.
BTW, the dictionary definition starts with “based on random choice”. If we stop there, it still adequately matches what I was talking about, and it also unfortunately doesn’t add much color either. Then the keyword becomes “random” rather than “arbitrary”, but “random” is also commonly used to mean the reason is unknown or complex.
Total tangent, but being a fan of Monte Carlo methods, I frequently use “arbitrary” to disambiguate from truly “random”. When people are asked to pick random numbers, the results are arbitrary but not random in the mathematical sense. ;)