Thanks for posting this. A lot to reflect on here. I'm a cis white male and while I can't relate to everything said here I definitely feel the "you're a cis white male so shut up and listen" frustration. I'm married to a black woman and speak out often on pro black (and all minorities) and pro women issues. And it really fucking sucks being told to shut up and sit down by those communities and being treated like the enemy. I understand why they feel that way. It just sucks. But I tell myself that it sucks even worse for them and what they have to experience and I love them and continue to fight for them because I know it's right. But it's hard.

But this isn't about me and what I go through. I'm just saying I get what this author is saying. And it really sucks. I hope that one day she is able to come out of the closet. Maybe she won't. That's her choice. But I hate that the world makes her feel like this. And until the world is more ready and accepting of people like her, I will start speaking out on things like this for people like her who feel they can't safely do so.

Also as a male feminist ally who doesn't really read women/queer/poc authors (I don't read too many books period) I really need to start doing so more.