The internet is a big place. There's room for all kinds of social networks. You don't have to join every one of them.
Facebook is worse in every way regarding privacy (although they don't actually enforce their real name policy as far as I can tell/from the experiences in my peer group).
Other networks don't exist (see below). Twitter is a different beast. Don't start with LinkedIn or something or recommend niche products.
A social network, in my world, is a place where you can reach out to a lot of (like-minded/known/interesting) people. The point for me is that you need to have the critical mass so that the network works and is interesting in the first place (I won't find my friends on identi.ca..). But this should allow a lurking mode. A careful approach, picking friends by contacting them out of band ("I'm Foobar on G+") should be a fine use case.
I think the major reason to complain about G+ now is, apart from issues with the name verification process itself, that the offended community is just disappointed. It could be a good alternative to FB for quite some people, especially for those that didn't join FB in the first place. And Google failed to deliver.
Is it their decision? Sure. Is it a right to be a G+ user? Certainly not. Are there people that are unhappy about this situation and interested to voice that opinion: Yep.
No, I don't use my analog name there. :-)
Email me if you want invites.
On a site like Google+ or Facebook it's more complicated. I interact with people I know in real life, and with people I don't. I feel that if "darklajid" commented on one of my posts there it might negatively influenced a real life friends' decision to also participate. People who do not interact with strangers on the internet find it easier to do so when the person they are interacting with is using their real name. I think this is the right decision for the target use-case of Google+ and Facebook.
On Google+ you have the right to post to specific people or specific groups of people. People can, and I would wager actively are, using this feature right now to protect their privacy. They only thing they cannot protect is their true identity (they cannot hide their existence entire).
For some that's still too much and I respect that. However these networks should not cater to every niche need, and indeed there are plenty of communities out there willing to fill the void.
I'm a fan of comic books but they don't sell them in grocery stores like they used to. I have to drive a bit out of my way to pick them up (or wait on them in the mail). I've chosen this niche hobby and accept that I have some slight inconvenience because of it. That's life.
I'll take my argument further: Google+ and Facebook grown beyond mere commercial offerings to become essential services like e-mail or the telephone system. Forcing certain classes of users onto a different network prevents them from interacting with the main body of the network. I consider this an inherently bad thing. Imagine if certain people were told they could only use niche telephone networks that were incapable of dialing the network that everybody else uses.
The biggest point for me is your point about people with pseudonyms scaring away people that you actually care more for, close friends/family. I never thought of this point, but I do agree that my mum would be more hesitant to post if l33tGuy and WhooItsMe have a conversation with me.
Your point is, therefor, in my opinion great, but I still don't think that pseudonyms should be banned:
- You didn't comment on the inconsistency (LadyAda? Lady Gaga? Ok. darklajid? No) issue.
- You are masking the issue that there's no way to verify names anyway (so far. I hope it'll stay that way). So you're cheating yourself if you hope that this strategy leads to everyone using his real name
- I could take your argument further, to dangerous levels, by saying that a lot of people in my offline social network would probably be uncomfortable participating in discussions that are in English. Or with people that have obviously 'foreign' names, the more different the scarier (Asian countries come to mind, Israeli names could be good as well). My mum wouldn't comment if WhooItsMe comments on my picture, but she also wouldn't comment if Yuval would write something..
You cannot protect people from the world around them. You can try to find ways to cater for everyone, but in my world the solution to your scenario is:
- Allow people to choose their name
- Give people a great deal of (simple/intuitive) control about visibility and privacy. I'll help my mum set it up..
One last note: I'm 'darklajid' here, but I voluntarily give away my real name, as email address in my profile. That's the _right_ way around for me: I chose my name, lurked, participated - and _then_ decided to give away that information here.
But in any context on the internet other than the social networks in question or when people are intentionally marketing themselves, if I see someone using their first and last name I assume that they are either very elderly, or very new to the internet. When I'm commenting on tech blogs, I'll sometimes use my firstname.lastname resume-heading email address - but I'm a tech guy, so it's obvious why. I could also see eventually using a real name on hn, but only for the same reason.
An email address is the id most people got first when they got on the internet, and is the model for pseudoanonymity. When I email my grandmother, I am pseudoanonymous and she is pseudoanonymous; it feels like the default state of the internet.
It's completely analogous to real life. You interact with different groups in real life differently (your coworkers vs. your dungeons and dragons friends). Some of the people you interact with in real life know your real name and some do not. You're free to make the decisions of how you handle your identity.