Let me start with this: This post is (one of) the best contra pseudonyms posts that I've read. Thank you.
The biggest point for me is your point about people with pseudonyms scaring away people that you actually care more for, close friends/family. I never thought of this point, but I do agree that my mum would be more hesitant to post if l33tGuy and WhooItsMe have a conversation with me.
Your point is, therefor, in my opinion great, but I still don't think that pseudonyms should be banned:
- You didn't comment on the inconsistency (LadyAda? Lady Gaga? Ok. darklajid? No) issue.
- You are masking the issue that there's no way to verify names anyway (so far. I hope it'll stay that way). So you're cheating yourself if you hope that this strategy leads to everyone using his real name
- I could take your argument further, to dangerous levels, by saying that a lot of people in my offline social network would probably be uncomfortable participating in discussions that are in English. Or with people that have obviously 'foreign' names, the more different the scarier (Asian countries come to mind, Israeli names could be good as well). My mum wouldn't comment if WhooItsMe comments on my picture, but she also wouldn't comment if Yuval would write something..
You cannot protect people from the world around them. You can try to find ways to cater for everyone, but in my world the solution to your scenario is:
- Allow people to choose their name
- Give people a great deal of (simple/intuitive) control about visibility and privacy. I'll help my mum set it up..
One last note: I'm 'darklajid' here, but I voluntarily give away my real name, as email address in my profile. That's the _right_ way around for me: I chose my name, lurked, participated - and _then_ decided to give away that information here.