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My first impulse is to agree but thinking about it more what positives are there to take away from masculinity. Is any feature of being masculine that is really desirable? I guess I think the whole idea of trying to be masculine to be kind of lame...

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There are plenty of positive traits that are associated with Masculinity: Bravery, Boldness, Self-Sufficiency, Discipline, Self-Assured, Skilled, Strong, etc.

Of course this does not mean that these traits are somehow exclusive to or owned by Masculinity.

> Standards of manliness or masculinity vary across different cultures and historical periods. Traits traditionally viewed as masculine in Western society include strength, courage, independence, leadership, and assertiveness.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masculinity

Much of that sounds positive to me. I think the toxicity primarily comes from people caring primarily about appearance. For example by trying to avoid being seen as weak or by trying to appear strong relative to other people by making them appear to be weak.

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