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Even in eastern societies people aren't necessarily happy to care for the elderly. Some young Chinese women are reluctant to marry because they'll get stuck caring for their in-laws. And I'm not criticizing them, just pointing out that the issue isn't a simple east / west divide.

https://www.cnn.com/2021/01/29/china/china-millennials-marri...

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I would definitely advise my kids to take that into account when deciding on a life partner. I watched my mom waste all her best years caring for super old in laws for nearly 3 decades. I remember her venting to me on our grocery trips how she had no life, and I knew she watched all her friends and women family members that had better in law situations live with much better quality of life.

My father had cancer, but was adamant that his children not be dragged into it. We ended up having to rush to another country to watch him die and cremate him, but it is what he wanted. I can't imagine burdening my children with my infirmities.

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