I'll wait.
This is the other thing "digital natives" don't get, nor want to. Negotiation is normal. Ya know something else tgey don't get? Selling something with the damn manual, and enough system documentation to actually be able to sit down and learn something. Drives me nuts.
If there were enough people out there to stand up and make a difference by going somewhere else and hitting these companies where it hurts (stop giving them money and personal data to mine), then maybe it would start to make a difference.
If your data is located in a cloud you might make the argument that Apple is the owner of the system. But if Apple is truly accessing data from your personal device or “server” without explicit authorization, it violates a whole host of computer crime laws.
If you're uploading the photos to iCloud Photos, you clearly have given authorisation to Apple - in the sense of accepting the iCloud T&Cs and saying yes to "store my photos in iCloud Photos" for them to access the data in those photos, else they wouldn't be able to upload them.