> So yes, masculinity is toxic

If all you can make of it is toxicity, then perhaps you should start looking for the problem inwards.

> Michael Jordan was a hypercompetitive alpha male asshole who viciously humiliated not just his opponents, but his teammates as well.

He's a champion and did what needed to be done to elevate the team up to that standard, and keep it there. I'm sure he'd have bought them a "Snickers" if that worked better.