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>I want to do it with a group of people I like and care about.

So not like my family then?

This touches on something very difficult when it comes to families: if you are lucky you end up with one that gives you a happy childhood. If you're super lucky that same family turn out to be the most supportive and fun people in you adult life. Most people simply aren't that super lucky, mostly because it actually requires lots and lots of conscience work across generations.

Your comment made me think how alike a 'normal' family and a 'normal' workplace really are.

Siblings (departments) compete for love (attention) from the parents (senior management). Hold a grude that they were not the favourite child (employee) and they had to make it all on their own unlike their little sister (new employee / product / competing department) who had it easy and had all the support (resources / marketplace) and help from their parents (management).

One christmas (bonus round) my brother (colleague) got the toy (a big bonus) he really wanted, and I just got a skateboard (a bonus that is the same size but I am certain is less than the other guy got). My parents (boss) obvioulsy doesnt love me (value my contribution) as much as them.

Yes, absolutely it is a cultural thing. Those with supporting families are very fortunate.

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