I had a horrific personal experience of this grief. It took me a long time to understand it was grief.

This resonated: https://twitter.com/FutureJurvetson/status/14004853611977973...

This also: “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.” - Jamie Anderson

Remember, as painful as it is, "this too shall pass"

All the best to all of you out there. You have my love.

There should be counsellors / therapists who understand and can help.