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I have the opposite problem where I'm terrified to invite regular income people to activities because of the cost. If I invite someone to an event/activity and their response is "That's kind of expensive," I feel embarrassed that I put them in a position to have to say that.

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*See my prev. comment in a same comment branch. I have similar experience being with my close friends who don't make a lot of money. We never go to expensive restaurants or expensive places. If we get together and I think the bill will be high, I just cover for myself, my gf and person in the group who makes the least. That pretty much covers 75% of the bill. My friends are OK with that, because they know, I always there for them and never will use it as point of leverage or being show off.

Been there. But what I try to do is just invite them.

Like literally tell them before hand the food is on me. Or find some stupid reason to pay for them.

Even if it's just two pizzas, but it's at my place, I'll just pay and say it's our home and its on us. But if I bring the pizzas to someone's place I'll say it's their place so it's on me, lol.

I used to be poor, and always saw people pay for my stuff without second thought. I really love being able to do that now.

Also a good way to accidentally self isolate yourself.

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