I hear what you are saying. However, I cant get rid of the feeling that this attitude of "everyones pain is important" actually leads to people falling in love with their various pains, instead of actually trying to fight them. Regarding depression. I had a phase of depression for several years, in addition to my disability. This gave me yet more incentive to fight the depression, because you know, being depressed and fucking blind isn't really a state you want to stay in.

I realize everyone has their own story, and things feel differently to different people. But I cant get rid of the feeling that we are breeding unhappy people because we promise them support an every level, no matter what their story might be. IOW, I am not convinced that this new type of social pampering is actually healthy to the individual.