I am no cheerleader for Ryanair... But most of your arguments don't really hold.
1. What's wrong with recycled seats? If you live in a city you are drinking recycled water.
2. Comparing a trans-atlantic flight to a short-haul one (which all Ryanair flights are) is not correct. Short-haul Aer Lingus is not discernably different to Ryanair.
3. Michael O'Leary is the king of free publicity. The fact that you heard about his "coin operated toilet" plan says it all. No-one ever seriously entertained standing room on airplanes etc...
And none of this has any bearing on the recent hijacking.
I've flown many times with Ryanair and otherairlines, with small kids in tow, and there is little difference, because most of the hassle is down to security theatre at the airports.