Alas, no when you have a SSID remembered it doesn't know if it's hidden or not. (well maybe apple has some privacy behavior for this). It's not only used for hidden networks: clients probe so they can quickly enumerate nearby access points so they can switch over to them fast if they lose connectivity.
A few years ago when the whole "people are tracking your phones using wifi probes!" story got popular I ran packet captures on an android and ios device and found that neither made directed probe requests (ie. the kind that contained SSIDs). The man page for wpa_supplicant (which is used for android) seems to confirm this:
scan_ssid
SSID scan technique; 0 (default) or 1. Technique 0 scans for the
SSID using a broadcast Probe Request frame while 1 uses a
directed Probe Request frame. Access points that cloak
themselves by not broadcasting their SSID require technique 1,
but beware that this scheme can cause scanning to take longer to
complete.
If so the best way to have a phone that doesn't leak is to have a home network that does... maybe?
That certainly isn't a theoretical requirement; the alternative is "if you run a hidden network, your devices will not connect to it automatically". You'd have to tell them to connect.
An easy way around this would be to leave your wireless SSID on it's default (or set it to 'Linksys').
Exactly, and thus don't add _nomap.