I've been jerking off on porn since I'm 14, believe me, my parents didn't know (thanks to me coding apps to cover my tracks) not approved. No matter how puritan you are, when puberty hits, they'll find a way.
Sex for most people is about love, not dominance. And the porn you’ve been consuming since childhood objectifies women, and makes them seem like sex toys. If you think those women like that kind of stuff, and aren’t just doing it for a paycheck, then you haven’t been around many women.
And just to be clear, this is not a “Puritan” thing. I have no issue with consenting adults watching and enjoying sexual imagery.
The problem again is those who groom children. Unfortunately the reality is that many men do use sex as a power and control over those with less power. If you think about the me too movement, and how much sexual predation has been occurring to adult women behind closed doors... now imagine what happens with children who really have no voice.