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> Imagine if men used a "breast size" filter, do you see why this is so disturbing?

They do? Like what do you think they swipe left/right based on? It is another very apparent feature..

> There is no stereotype like this about white men, they are considered extremely attractive.

Where? Do you think a Muslim women would prefer a white men over another Muslim? An Indian women (living in India) a white one over another Indian?

I mean, yeah, all around white people do have a positive bias, mostly due to the US's movie industry exporting it.

> This has not been my experience in general, most men I meet in tech and in the US share your types of beliefs.

Maybe you just don't consider those things misogynistic, because frankly you do sound like one..

> Even asian women show these biases for only dating white men.

I doubt asian women date white men over other asian ones, but stereotypically asian people can be very racist, except for white people, I agree with you on that.

> They should take responsibility.

For daring to prefer someone with the same skin color as themselves? It's called a personal preference, and I agree there is a problem with racism, but come on.. Should we also be angry at men for not wanting to have sex with another gay men? That's like the most fundamental personal choice. It sucks, but you are way overstepping someone else's personal authority.

> They do? Like what do you think they swipe left/right based on? It is another very apparent feature..

No it would be heavily criticized to filter based on that, and it often is not that apparent. Men would not be able to ask for it even if they wanted to know. There is also no weight option, which men would like. All of this is because women control the market.

> Where? Do you think a Muslim women would prefer a white men over another Muslim? An Indian women (living in India) a white one over another Indian?

In the US, and yeah all women pretty much prefer white men. White men are heavily preferred in india.

> Maybe you just don't consider those things misogynistic, because frankly you do sound like one..

Because you consider me pointing out how racist/sexist women can be as misogynistic. It's an easy way to avoid the issues I bring up.

> I doubt asian women date white men over other asian ones, but stereotypically asian people can be very racist, except for white people, I agree with you on that.

Asian women raised in the US often strongly prefer white men, you rarely see it the other way around.

> For daring to prefer someone with the same skin color as themselves?

For the societal biases and helping to fix them. You're clearly a complete racist, that is practically the definition of racism. Why would you word it like that unless your a psychopath? Also it's not about skin color, it's about race. Again I even mentioned how women admit to finding ethnic men attractive but still won't date them. Women will even ask for ethnic background for ambiguous looking people and unmatch based on that. This is not comparable to sexual orientation, it's very much about societal issues and you know it. You are disgusting. You fight so much for women's issues but don't care at all about fixing problems like these.

> All of this is because women control the market.

Yeah, I'm sure every dating apps' CEO and other important positions are held by women...

> In the US

There you are, at least read what I was writing. You know there are other countries than one that is predominantly white from its inception?

> Because you consider me pointing out how racist/sexist women can be as misogynistic

No. There is a difference between being racist and not being attracted to someone from another race. And your conclusion of some women being racist is in no way in disagreement with what I say. But you've been saying that all women are racist, which is not true.

> Asian women raised in the US

raised in the US, maybe that has to do something with it??

> Again I even mentioned how women admit to finding ethnic men attractive but still won't date them

SOME. They are racist, or has parents that would disown them if they would have an interracial relationship, or other reasons.

And thank you for your kind remarks, that's a great way to emphasize your points...

EDIT: I do apologize if I upset you, it was not my intention at all. I just feel that in your reasoning you are thinking of an object instead of another human being. Unfortunately, even if the other's choice is due to some evil reason, like blatant racism, it is only their choice who they want to date with and you can't do anything at all with it at this level. But as I noted earlier: more and more interracial couples, even at first surface-level things like more attention to diverse casts in movies will slowly make it more acceptable at a societal level. Of course there will always be racist people, but exactly the societal-pressure-free choice of women will let go of the old stigmas.

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