I am sorry for what happened to your family. Armenians did commit some atrocities in response. I don’t condone those. I say this as an Armenian.

The scale of those was small in comparison. That does not negate that the genocide happened, in which the Turk’s goal was to obliterate the Armenians as a people.

WRT the documents you mention, those are probably from the contemporaneous disinformation campaign on the part of the govt. Even at the time many foreign observers noted that the govt was exaggerating the Armenian “threat”.

The claims you are making are thoroughly debunked and not recognized by historians in mainstream academia outside turkey.