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There are self-centered people from all countries.

I used to feel good/bad depending on what people from my country/region/group etc. do. But it's so silly. Why do I care what another person does - whom I don't even know? It's the same with long lost ancestors.

So now a days I notice such thoughts quickly and remember that it's a silly heuristic that my brain uses and I should ignore it.

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I've always been kind of an outcast, so it's always been my policy to worry about myself and let others take care of themselves.

As a result, I think my moral compass is quite a bit stricter than most people. I definitely have people telling me I'm being too hard on myself.

But I don't turn that compass on others. They have to make their own choices, and live with the consequences, both internal and external.

Thank you for the thoughtful answer. I am not unaware of my first impulse towards anger. I have hurt a lot of people with my angry outbursts. Some of them are in their after lives and I hope my sorry reaches them.

Don't dwell on guilt, just focus on doing better. It sounds like you already are, because your comment here makes it seem like you are thinking and living the humble life now.

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