I was hoping the OP comment would be flagged dead rather quickly, but this was essentially my response too. I emigrated from the US to Canada purely because of this pervasive mentality that "I can't suffer you to benefit unless I'm getting something out of the deal". It isn't held by everyone in America or even the majority as far as I've seen - but what's weird is that in the US that view is socially acceptable and that's pretty horrifying to me.

Not everything in life is a transaction where you're either the winner or the loser. Trying to measure things in that manner will lead you to lose out on a lot of joy.