I switched the SSD of my MBP 2 years ago and since then everything is out of control. Sometimes the thing keeps running when I close the lit and when I open it again the battery is empty. Sometimes it simply shuts down entirely and has to boot from scratch when I open it again.
I tried reinstalling the OS and whatnot, nothing worked.
Regarding your troubles, I'm not really surprised that it's not working with a third-party SSD, and it definitely sounds like a hibernation glitch. Have you tried disabling hibernation altogether?
disable: `sudo pmset -a hibernatemode 0`
re-enable: `sudo pmset -a hibernatemode 3`
(in fact, if my admittedly poor memory serves, I think I busted hibernation mode on my old 2009 17" MBP doing the same thing, and this trick fixed sleep…)
A module working for everything except hibernate is ridiculous.
I have just accepted it, on a personal computer I am less likely to need to keep a ton of things open so it's okay if I lose all my windows on crash.
On a work computer I would not be able to accept this - thankfully my work 2018 MBP on Catalina handles this fine.
I previously had an Ubuntu Dell XPS at work with a similar problem and it was horrible losing my tabs and terminal windows 4-5x per work day
I had similar issues with my Surface Book 2, though it wasn't as pronounced as my mac.