It's infinitely more difficult with ADHD. I use phone apps to remind myself of everyday things and track my shopping lists. This may sound normal but it's a coping strategy and when it's gone I am unable to function as a normal human being. I cannot go shopping without a shopping list because I will grab things I think I need but that I actually do not need (which is why I have 3 glasses of chocolate spread for bread and 3 packs of cereal, but no bread or milk on most weekdays).
And I will point out that children in Europe are regularly treated for ADHD. I was treated for ADHD. As an adult however, it's impossible to be prescribed ADHD medication (all of which requires a prescription). In a lot of cases, coffee or other stimulants can help but aren't always available and don't fix it all.
Without suffering from ADHD, I'd say it's impossible to even comprehend the mental strain one experiences even for menial everyday tasks like remembering to brush your teeth (I require an app to remind me of doing that when it is not a workday, as my usual routine of going to work and going to bed early for a workday involves it. On weekends or vacation, I do not remember on my own to do basic things like that).
I just started working again (on medication) after a 6month work break and it is so refreshing to be able to focus on work for the full 8 hours in a work day.
Like you said, the medication doesn't really help with all the "other" stuff that comes with ADHD. (forgetting to brush your teeth is a real struggle) but at least it helps me to be productive and have a stable income again.
There were definitely years spent afterwards unrolling maladaptive coping strategies I'd developed, and I've just had six teeth out leaving me with less than half of what I should have, so definitely use reminders to brush, it's super-easy to forget.
PS. I've been on Ritalin (the Concerta XXL slow-release) for a decade now and it's a life-changer. The first time I woke up in the morning and remembered what it was I'd been thinking I needed to do before I went to bed was amazing.
My personal version of this hell is remembering to take the meds at all: if I don't have the "getting ready for work" routine (which is when I take my meds) ... I usually forget to take my meds. In fact, this just reminded me that I told my doctor I was going to try and download an app to try to remember to take them.
Yay for not being able to remember things!
I drink half-caff double shots (sounds odd but I want a decent amount of flavor but not too much caffeine), making macchiato first thing in the morning, americano later.
People laugh at how I’m always carrying a coffee when I’m working. I tell them I’m just keeping my caffeine at the perfect level, which is true.
Another example, Benadryl makes me insanely hyper. One of my kids is same way.
Telling a doctor results in being labeled a liar.
At least a dozen medications that I respond in weird ways to.
A 4 hour adderall (20mg), lasts me about 30 hours.
Worked better when younger. Now it’s role as a vascular-constrictor is dangerous for me.
I have adult ADHD, and even though I tried to get help when I was turning 20 and started to fail university (I had an average of 1.3 for the classes that I did finnish, I just couldn't commit to anything) it took me 3 years until I got a diagnosis (due to ridiculously long waiting times for doctors appointments).
In the end I only got a doctors appointment because I got diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, and my neurologist, who is also a psychyatrist was like "btw I also think you have ADHD, ever tried to get help for that?".
This is amazing to me. I've never seen as bad of a situation as with neurologists/psychiatrists. I called some a while ago and it was essentially either "we don't do any new patients" or "yeah, we have a wait list, if a spot opens up, we'll call everyone and the first person to answer gets it; expect it to take half a year though". Unless it's an emergency, you just won't even get to see a doctor.
It was amazing for focus and energy. Enough that I could work for a time.
Course it left me in horrific agony most of the time.
If you happen to be from Germany or France, watch this: https://www.arte.tv/en/videos/096295-000-A/psycho-attention-...
If you have more time, watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dVDhYtQkuO8
This one is "fun" as well: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30526189/
"Results: Childhood ADHD-C was associated with a 9.5-year reduction in healthy ELE (estimated life expectancy), and a 8.4-year reduction in total ELE relative to control children by adulthood. The persistence of ADHD to adulthood was linked to a 12.7-year reduction in ELE. Several background traits accounted for more than 39% of variation in ELE."
>People thinking it’s not a real condition.
the person you're responding to meant statements like yours:
>Frankly, the symptoms you describe apply to pretty much everybody, and are just the things one deals with in life.
According to the NIH, prevalence of severe ADHD in children is around 4% [1]. This differs by degree from "the things one deals with in life" for most people - it's an extreme version that can be debilitating without treatment.
[1] https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/attention-deficit...
Mostly I’m alarmed that so many parents are happy to put their small children on a lifetime supply of medicine for something that’s not immediately life threatening.
I don't think you get it. My son can either be on medicine, or he can fail middle school, and high school and be uneducated. If you're volunteering to sit next to him, and redirect him to his work every 3 minutes, or pay for someone to do it, by all means, let me know. At the same time, he's brilliant, and can solve any problem he puts his mind to, and he can do the actual work, if he can focus on it.
Maybe re-think this without the judgement--good parents aren't happy about doing this. They are just less unhappy than the alternative.
We haven’t had to medicate them yet but the decision would be a very considered one and weighed up to if it would change their lives for the better.
Since the US makes it so hard to get (you have to renew your prescription every month) it's actually very likely you'll stop it.
From TFA: Qelbree "may increase suicidal thoughts and actions in some children with ADHD, especially within the first few months of treatment or when the dose is changed,"
https://www.psychiatryadvisor.com/home/topics/adhd/stronger-...
In this case, medication tends to report silly things as side effects because they report every single thing the patients are experiencing. There's no frequency of reports here, but it could be just a few reports with no causation established.
And here is yet another victim to the 'Europe is a homogenous country-like entity' fallacy. Where in Europe are you talking about, and what age category? Because I can tell you that in the Netherlands this is very much wrong.
1. there is lots of evidence showing that “something” is wrong with lots of peoples executive functions and that this observed problem is hereditary.
2. this is pretty insensitive.
everybody does have these symptoms to some extent as you executive functions can’t be running 100% all the time. just like everyone has varying degrees of sight. it’s only a problem when it negatively impacts your life.
for someone with an executive function disorder the symptoms happen often enough and with enough severity to materially impact their ability to; do work, have friends, be organised etc.
not like, oh i forgot the milk (though, that happens) but like: “oh, i forgot i was brushing my teeth and now i’m searching for rubber gloves to replace the ones with a hole in from the kitchen, where did i leave my tooth brush?”
the meds impact people with an executive function disorder little differently too, they return executive function to normal. so, while you maybe amped up on amphetamines to some degree your head is clear , your ability to pick which questions to answer, which rabbit holes to explore, to maintain more than 1 thing in your head at a time is restored. for 4-8 hours a day you get to be somewhat like your peers.
Looking at the numbers, I'm leaning towards that too. 9.4 percent of children are diagnosed with ADHD, and that's just the confirmed cases, nothing about estimated prevalence. Either we're screwing up the diagnostic criteria and overlabelling people (or worse, we're diagnosing them out of convenience), or we've seriously fucked our own society in ways that aggravate this, and medication is at best a stopgap.
My money is on this option. We have so much more things to cope with, and so much more change in these things to cope with, than we would have had 1000 years ago. I can imagine that this constant information overload would push some people over the edge that would have functioned well in an earlier society.
(Disclaimer: I'm not a specialist in psychiatry or anything like that.)
My gut feeling is that overcoming this is a big part of the true solution.
Basically every child and grandchild has been diagnosed with ADHD, or really needs to get tested.
For example, a lot of parents do not treat their ADHD kids with medication. However getting the diagnoses allows for the kid to get an Individualized Educational Plan setup with their school district that makes exceptions to cater for their needs, like special counseling services. A medical diagnosis of ADHD, especially if untreated, is how you get into these special programs.
In Europe acceptance of ADHD has lagged behind the US but you'd expect stronger institutional health-care systems to reduce cultural differences somewhat.
Europeans tend to gasp with horror that the school system is "pushing drugs on kids." But it's really more that through the school system the kids and their families have access to free medical advice and social services. So whereas in Europe you might have to remember to ask your general/family practitioner when you see them once a year, in the US there's a team of professionals working through the school system that are making sure kids have everything they need to succeed. Usually that's things like free food so they're not hungry or school bus transportation, but in ~5-10% of the cases it means ADHD diagnosis and treatment. So while this a bit less than double the percentage of kids that get ADHD diagnosis in Europe, it makes a bit more sense in context.
It might be over-diagnosed in the United States. I sure think so. But that does not make the effects of the disorder any less damaging.
At any rate, perhaps you might consider whether Europe is under diagnosing disorders like ADHD? Or, perhaps your have an incorrect understanding about ADHD diagnoses in the US?
I think this is the main cultural difference, not that its underdiagnosed
Is this because it's looked down on?
Are you able to function perfectly as a normal adult? i.e. all the symptoms from the top posts are in check through habits, etc?
If so, what's your secret? Because just living is very difficult and that's WITH vyvanse+2 energy shots per day with l-tyrosine, taurine, b6, b12, b3 and at least a little l-theanine per day.
I am far from a perfectly normal adult. I never tried getting there tho
I was diagnosed with ADHD, prescribed ritalin. My mother opted me out of being medicated. It wasn't necessary for me, because I shouldn't've been diagnosed with ADHD. This was in early 2000s when ADHD was being applied to any kid with today's spectrum-like behavior
But that doesn't mean others don't have a real struggle with this
I was even diagnosed as a child (very rare back in the day) but all they focused on was the hyperactive part. They made me attend useless therapy sessions, blamed me for everything and labeled a lazy not caring child. No one ever even mentioned medication.
The hyperactive part went away when I was around 13. I was healed or so they thought. Still lazy, still wasting my potential, still couldn't learn to sit quietly in place but not stirring trouble anymore.
My life was a disaster since graduating high school. I dropped from university. Lost contact with most friends, started gambling for living - I was good at math and reasoning and it was easy back then to make living at it. I never had any kind of job nor hold any kind of marketable skill.
And then I met someone who gave stimulants to me. It was night and day difference instantly. My apartment was suddenly clean. My bills were paid. I started learning programming again. I founded a small software company which got very successful. I started a relationship, reconnected with some friends. Started doing sports, stopped missing appointments. I even got officially diagnosed with ADHD in my thirties. It took a while to find about one place in my country that diagnoses adults. Most doctors didn't even want to talk to me as they thought I just want to get stimulants to get high. It's a humiliating experience when you hear a doctor after doctor telling you it doesn't exist, that I just want stimulants or that maybe I should get a calendar and organize my life.
It's still not perfect. The only stimulant I can legally get here is Ritalin which has very unpleasant side effects. I can get Modafinil on black market which is too mild but doesn't have sides and makes things a bit better. Trying to get Adderall can land me in jail. It's usually a mix of small doses of Modafinil and either caffeine or very small Ritalin dose. This way I can get a few productive hours a day. Maybe 4. If I can get 4 I am happy. It was a good day and I don't hate myself after.
I have one thing to say to self righteous moralizing politicians and doctors in Europe. Go fuck yourself. I am lucky to be born with above average IQ and not trusting you much. To do my reading and being able to get stuff on the black market. You still caused my life to be a constant struggle for 2 decades. I know there are people who never realized the change is possible and their suffering is to satisfy your moral convictions.
So why exactly are you horrified? Is there a pleasure in watching people struggle and being able to get help? Is it some kind of God given destiny they have to deal with? Are you horrified when people get insulin to treat Diabetes as well or TRT to treat androgen deficiency? I have heard such comments a lot and all I hear is: "you should suffer your destiny, we don't help people here".
Long story short: Adderall has a side effect of making people lose weight. Didn't took long for Endocrinologists to start to "diagnose" ADHD and give Adderall like candy... Government couldn't find a way to fix that behaviour and decided to just ban it outright.
To be honest, despite the fact I have hypothyroidism alongside ADHD, I hate endocrionologists, I NEVER (really) met one that is 100% honest, they are always doing shady shit, never saw a medical branch so riddled with corruption and shenanigans.
- parents not actually caring for their children. Not putting them through the motions of life. Boundaries, schedules, motions, etc. How many of those have dinner in front of the TV? Don't "eat their vegetables"? You raise a kid on overprocessed food and no exercise, what do you think is going to happen? (not saying absolutely this is the only issue, far from it)
- Overmedicalization, sure, up to a bit. I can sympathize with people that need the medication to feel better and be productive, but how many of those have a legitimate problem and how many of those "just need a nudge". Learn to manage emotions and priorities is also part of growing up.
- "Somebody elses problem", If school is boring is the problem with the school or the kid?
Not saying that ADHD is not a real issue, but if you took a look at all aspects of that person's life, I bet you would find lots of things to fix.
I think that threads from few days ago where basically all Americans found it normal and expected to for 5 years old to learn reading might have to do with that. If you expect too much of kids too soon, a lot of them wont be able to cope. You can then either adjust expectation or claim those kids sick.
The other difference I noted is much less physical freedom Americans give to their kids and much bigger obsession with physical safety. Their kids do a lot of organized sport, but seemingly less of "run around as you please right now on whim". Which might have been related.