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Fewer men are having sex with about an equal amount of women. So there are a few men who statistically have the most sex and then the rest barely gets any. Tinder and the like very heavily favor attractive men. Then there's a whole bunch (like in my compsci major) who don't even talk to women on a daily basis...

https://m.imgur.com/L9Vu4Zo graphs like this dont inspire hope either and serve to support my previous points

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But women generally don't want to be part of harems. If they want something besides sex, they pretty much need to stop sharing a small group of attractive guys and start settling down with the less attractive guys.

Perhaps tinder is not the place to find a guy for settling down.

They might not know that they're part of a harem if they're struck by the man's good looks and there's asymmetric information.

Don't forget the other big chart OKCupid posted which was how few men are willing to have date even slightly older women.

There are more women in their 20s having sex with men in their 30s, than men in their 20s having sex with women in their 30s. In most states it's not legal to have sex with women under 18, so (assuming serial monogamy) at any given time there just aren't enough women that are younger than a 20-something male who aren't in a relationship with someone older than that 20-something male.

In most states the age of consent is 16, not 18.

(31 states vs. 13 states; the remaining six set their age of consent at 17.)

What's with this idea, that all women are constantly having sex with somebody? And that they all want to share their partner so easily...

The implication of the data used to generate the graph that the article is focused on is that young females are having more sex than young males.

"Americans overall are having less sex than they used to. Young people, in particular young men, appear to be driving this trend."

"As per the chart below, the percentage of young women who hadn't had sex in the previous year increased as well, though not nearly as much as it did for men."

That graph seems like an accurate reflection of how much effort people of each gender put into their appearance.

Don't be discouraged by that graph; Okcupid also described how looks matter much more to men than women when it comes to actually sending messages.

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