Also why didn't she follow up with "well, I do" and see what would happen? Is it better to shut up and blame communication style? Is shutting your mouth and getting angry a communication style?
A fairly big part of the population, mostly female, are taught to be unassuming and meek-- to indirectly ask, to accept the decisions of others, not rock the boat, etc. If you spend your youth in this mode, it becomes something that's difficult to overcome as an adult.
Talk about setting kids up for failure: train them to never actually ask for what they want. And then they can look forward to a lifetime of bad relationships and never earning as much as the people who do ask for what they want.
Askers should take notice. "Would you like to stop for a coffee?" is an entirely different question than "Would you like to stop for a coffee?". I don't see where the confusion is. (/s)