What's incredibly annoying about these services is they don't do the obvious thing and wait until the computer has been idle for a while.
I guess the assumption is that most people don't leave their computers on all the time, so it's designed to run as a background task else it wouldn't actually get to run at all.
Or perhaps you're (shock, horror) a mainstream user who has no idea what any of the words in your comment mean, starting with "router"?
Sure, a power user can prioritise traffic and deal with this, but I think the original point is valid for the average user. Perhaps the onus should be on backup software writers (and anything that syncs in large enough chunks) to ensure their traffic is smooth and not bursty, in effect enforcing their own QoS.
Also, mainstream desktop users do generally know what a router is. The people who are afraid to touch the boxes the cable guy installed and think that IE is the internet are well below average in terms of computer literacy.
Finally, backup software can't ensure that it is well behaved unless at some point it tries to estimate the quality of your connection (which is hard to do accurately), and even then it can't be well-behaved if it is used on more than one machine simultaneously.