While it's allowed, generally Metamath users do not prove constructs directly from axioms, for exactly the same reason as you don't do it in Lean or traditional informal mathematics. You're right that most Metamath tools have fewer automated tactics, but there are tools with some automation, and people are working to improve that.
It's also true that there are lots of attempts at formalisation out there; I happen to know about vdash.org , for example, but there are certainly others. I think it's good to have an abundance of formalisations, since no one formalisation style is going to appeal to everyone (for example, as already discussed above, probably the more formalisation-minded mathematicians will have a higher tolerance for minimalism).
Lean's power lies in its elaborator that breaks down complex tactic-based proofs to a core proof language. This elaboration process can be extended with custom tactics and custom syntax, making it way more powerful than metamath.
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