Please listen to me. I was in a similar position to you. I chose wrong. I chose my family.

Let me tell you why: by choosing my family, I reduced my ability to become stronger.

You need to spend the next 10 years becoming the strongest person you can.

Then the next 60 years of your life as well as your sister will be great.

Yes, your family's life will suck in the meantime.

DO NOT DEVIATE FROM THE GOAL.

The goal is to be the strongest man you can and come back to take care of your family.

So in that vein:

- Keep coding - Go take the auto mechanic job - IGNORE YOUR FAMILY'S PROBLEMS FOR THE NEXT 10 YEARS - Send them what you can, do not send what they ask for. Do not overstretch yourself.

Imagine you work for microsoft in 10 years vs you're working retail for minimum wage.

Which do you want?

Prioritizing your family ensures that you will NEVER GAIN THE SKILLS TO WORK AT MICROSOFT.

Prioritize yourself. Let your family know what you're doing. DO NOT DEVIATE.

I REPEAT.

DO.

NOT.

DEVIATE.