I don't think anyone is crying about it. Here's a simple thought experiment: would you use that word while sitting at dinner with a developmentally disabled child and his parents?
Unlike, say, those who "champion" people and then speak down to them.
https://www.inquirer.com/columnists/yale-study-white-liberal...
I prefer to talk to people as if they aren't handicapped (or less because they are POC) and can handle regular words.