> In the (liberal, coastal, urban, very political) circles that I travel in everyone (especially parents) knows and acknowledges that men and women are, on average, different in ways that end up mattering for the distribution of outcomes. But everyone also believes that sexism and misogyny are significant problems in the world, and that the people struggling against those problems are worthy of admiration and praise. So to leap into a conversation about sexism and misogyny yelling “well actually Giolla and Kajonius find that sex differences in personality are larger in countries with more gender equality” would be considered a rude and undermine-y thing to do. Which is just to say that most people are not rationalists — they believe that statements can be evaluated on grounds beyond truth and falsity. There is suspicion of the guy who is “just asking questions.”
That's assuming that everything that gets labelled as racist is justly labelled as such.