Thank you so much, truly. This is all really helpful. r/ADHD and your comments do resonate a lot with me, but I haven't checked out "Driven to Distraction" nor How to ADHD. Will check them out and see how things go, then go seek diagnosis.
Wall of Awful https://youtu.be/Uo08uS904Rg
The ADHD Tax https://youtu.be/pAG0jUYeAG0
Driven To Distraction is available on Audible and I think you get one free book if you create a new account. That's how I read it anyway.
This video is hands down the best explainer video Ive found out of all that I have watched
Also this video highlights some really interesting research which shows why we get distracted. Basically the Default Mode Network and Task Positive Network are supposed to anti- correlate and in ADHD brains they don't perfectly do that.