password reset flows are generally a privacy leak
if you use email as some kind of account key, you can generally find out whether that email has signed up (if not the username)
automatic password reset and email verification are good for businesses and users in a lot of ways so this is a tradeoff
if FB is showing the specific account linked to an SMS that's IMO negligent but shrug, they employ more lawyers than I do and they've never been investigated by the FTC for privacy issues