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Just shave it off / short. The person it affects most is yourself, and confidence does not come from hair.

This is just plain false. Google attractiveness and bald. Lowering your possible attractiveness by 75% to 50% is not an easy choice. Your confidence has nothing to do with it. Especially in a world where people are chosen via pictures. It works for some men. I might be attracted to DuWayne Johnson but there are plenty of men who look awful bald.

>> there are plenty of men who look awful bald

That's just your opinion though. It's certainly not mine. In fact, I think bald people look cool. I also think a lot of them have much more confidence in themselves than I do and I have a full set of hair.

All people have hills to climb, though. I just wish people who are insecure because of their lack of fur on top wasn't. Only douche-bags will ever hold that against you. Don't try to please those people. They are jerks.

I said 50-75% not 100%. How many other things in life would you lower your chances of success 50-75% if you could easily avoid it? The polls show 75% to 44% of women don't find bald men attractive. I'm going to guess those numbers are worse for bald women. Solving baldness is probably much easier than changing culture.

Everyone can have a six pack.

Not everyone can have hair.

The improvement in atteractiveness from losing weight for the “average” USA person far exceeds hair.

So if you want to look better focus on what you can control and lose body fat.

> Everyone can have a six pack

Not really true. Some people's genetics make it difficult for a 6 pack to show even at a low body fat %.

> Not everyone can have hair

I mean, this is the whole problem that is trying to be solved here.

Imagine if everyone _could_ have hair!

the value of hair would decrease if everyone had it.

Rather than obsess over something you can’t fix (unless and if there is ever a cure), it is better to accept reality and move on. Losing your hair is very low on the list of bad things that can happen to you - I don’t even need to bother listing worse things. If hair loss is your biggest problem, maybe a healthy dose of perspective is the cure!

> Rather than obsess over something you can’t fix (unless and if there is ever a cure), it is better to accept reality and move on

The entire history of human progress is about finding solutions to problems that seemed like they couldn't be solved. Humans will always try to shape reality to their liking.

“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” - George Bernard Shaw

Tough question: Isn't baldness a genetic trait just like the pigment of the skin? Are you X% less attractive if you have a certain pigment of the skin?

Person's baldness was given to them at birth. They had no say in it just like the pigmentation color. What's the objective difference?

Yeah, baldness must have a use / evolutionary advantage (cooling, maybe) and isn't an illness. Like having 2 arms and 2 legs, beeing gay or having black skin color.

The confidence I gained from shaving my head far outweighed any real/perceived loss of attractiveness. Walking around trying to hide the fact I was going bald was soul destroying. Shaving it was owning it and it honestly set me free.

This is one of the most copied and pasted pieces of advice on the internet. Just shave it, grow a beard, and become muscular! Not everyone looks good without hair, some people have faces that look young instead of manly, can't grow a full beard, etc. Plenty of reasons men still hate losing hair.

>> Not everyone looks good without hair

Not everyone with hair looks good. The ugliest person ever was probably one with hair on top.

>> some people have faces that look young instead of manly

Some women absolutely love a boyish look. Some men too.

>> Plenty of reasons men still hate losing hair.

Men with hair hate their lives just as much.

It’s because it’s true! You can let going bald ruin your life but there is so much more to life than a full head of hair! You know what I wish would be different? My back which has been totally destroyed since I was 16 with messed up discs. Losing hair would be a lot preferable! But at the same time, I’m very happy I’m not like my cousin with her debilitating disease that will kill her before 30 that has left her family shattered since she was 8 years old!

Perspective, perspective, perspective.

Bald guys are hot:

https://extrafabulouscomics.com/comic/180/

You seem to be forgetting that women suffer from hair loss too and shaving it off is not an option for them.

Like it or not, bald women are a taboo in our society.

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