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Comment by kache_ | Hacker News Reader

the ghosting goes both ways :P

I (try to) never do this. I'll ignore cold emails, but once I start taking to a recruiter, I'll tell them when I'm not longer interested.

This is exactly what I try to do. I'm sure I might have left one or two hanging accidentally at some point. OTOH, those 1 or 2 certainly never contacted me again, so I don't feel terrible about being imperfect here, as long as I don't ghost 99% of the time. I figure that probably makes me better than most candidates and most recruiters in that respect, anyway.

True, not sure why this a problem. I've been ghosted and ghost people all the time. If they ghosted you that simply means they are not interested enough, never put your expectation high.

>moving on can be tough

it can be tough but it also something that can be trained to overcome

Its usually easier to change your own behavior rather than other people behavior.

True!

I sometimes handle interviews and I've been ghosted by a couple candidates in the past who wouldn't answer even after multiple emails and phone calls. Considering how overwhelming interviews are, I can sympathise...

- Not in any given relationship it doesn't. You can't ghost someone that has already ghosted you.

- On a systemic level, you're just propagating the same crappy behaviour that you don't like to see in other people. I don't see how that makes things better for anyone.

I think they meant:

- Candidates can decide they are not interested in the position anymore and ghost the recruiter/employer without warning

Similarly,

- Employers can ghost candidates and recruiters

- Recruiters can ghost candidates and employers

It's a ghosting triangle. Candidates probably get ghosted the most, but certainly recruiters and employers are ghosted as well.

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