How often do you fall? There’s that huge mat under you but the thought of falling 20 feet still freaks me out. How do you get past that?
Mostly because somebody has given you an exaggerated sense of how tall most problems are and how high the crux moves are. Most falls are a few feet onto flat ground.
Tall boulders make for good photos. But that’s not where you spend most of your time.
The gym I frequent also has a great variety of route difficulties and heights (~3m to ~7m), so it really helped me move up slowly along with my comfort level. As for the amount of times I fall, it's far less than I expected, and I've never felt unsafe, even while falling.