Same here! I'm a very concilliatory person, and I always try to be courteous, but I couldn't calm any of them down (even when I was flying first class for a business trip!).
One gal even made me take off the mask and put on a surgical mask (which she gave me, she wouldn't let me wear my non-vented N95) in front of a security camera. That was pretty embarrassing, to be holding up the line, and felt like a scene out of a dystopian comedy.
I can only reason that it's for liability reasons, and the airlines don't want to be sued for someone getting infected.
But then again, people right behind me had cloth masks on with their noses exposed, who obviously didn't care, and they didn't get a second look. Neither did the airlines keep the middle seats free like they had promised too. Clown world.
Once I was on the flight I put my respirator on with a hoodie over it and slouched against the window, and they didn't bother me.