If the Dem party just flat out denounced Defund Police / Green New Deal / Critical Race Theory etc and consolidated around a moderate platform they would effectively end the Republican Party.
Most of the people I know who voted for Trump aren't "deplorables", they are hard-working salt-of-the-earth people who would come plow out your driveway if they saw you struggling to clear the snow with a shovel or cook you a meal if they learned you just lost a loved one.
Are there rural people that aren't that kind of people? Sure. But they exist everywhere.
What's missing is respect. That alone would lead to some healing in this country, especially if it came from both sides.
And now they're right. They're ignorant fucks, and I'm done reaching out to them. Time for them to reach out to me. They can shove their snowplow where the sun don't shine. They can stop voting for the people who do use hateful language, over and over, as policy.
They just turned out to vote for a person who was demonstrably incompetent, and their visions of his opponent were delusional -- he never once called them any of the things you say. Until they stop doing that, they will remain correct that I have no respect for them.
Voting Democrat is already the compromise.