The main exception being things like controlling a progress bar (mouse works fine for me, though it's a neat demo), or changing system brightness/volume with a flick or drag (which is the one thing I find truly better... but I'd happily trade it back for a fn toggle and F keys). But that's so rarely useful.
I just hated the lack of ESC key (which they brought back, though my Mac is older). I have no muscle memory for any other key in that row.
I'd probably pay a little extra to get one on future non-Mac laptops, but not too much extra.
With the physical media keys, if they want to mute, it's always the same button. Pause music, always the same button. They're great in a way that the touchbar completely destroys.
(and yes, I know you can change this setting, but if we're assuming non-techy-users we also generally have to assume default settings.)
I'm sure someone somewhere finds it amazing, but I have no time for it.
To me it's no different than volume controls in a car. I've been in a cadillac with a touchbar for volume, and a new ram truck with a volume knob - there's absolutely no room for debate in my opinion. One of these allows me to instantly change the volume 100% up or down without taking my eyes off the road. The other requires hoping I get my finger in just the right spot from muscle memory and swipe enough times since there's 0 tactile feedback.
If it was more customisable I wouldn't mind it, but the apparant inability to force it to show me the things I actually want is annoying.
I can imagine there are some people for whom the application specific buttons are useful, but for me they are not worth it for what they displace.
I did this on like day 2 of having my MBP for what sounds like the same reason you want to. The setting I have turned on is "Expanded control strip" and I never see any application-specific controls, only volume, brightness, etc.
I had the exact same frustrations as you. Took me 10 mins digging into settings to figure it out. Now I have my touchbar constantly displaying all of the controls that are buttons on the Air (ie a completely over-engineered solution to get the same result)