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Yep, I had a manager I wasn't thrilled with early in my career, but I liked the work I was doing. Then one day I heard him yelling at someone in his office that I knew to be a good person & good worker. His precise words were "I'm the boss, if I want to shove my thumb up my ass & spin around I can do it and you can't say a thing"

And I thought to myself "Yep, I'm done here". Unfortunately I jumped ship too quickly and found myself in a job I hated, with a manger who (while not as vocally abusive) was just as bad.

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> Unfortunately I jumped ship too quickly

Made that mistake once... I learned that no job is perfect, and if you have a good thing going, stick with it.

Now, hindsight is always 20-20. If I had that experience, I'd probably ask my boss about it, in private, if possible. (Good leadership should always be able to handle challenging questions from subordinates.) (But, there are times where leadership should be challenged publicly.)

Perhaps the statement needed some context? I've had to make statements like, "no, I will not do you work for you," and, "now I've never done this before, and hopefully don't need to do it again, but I'm pulling rank here."

So I would have tried to get context from you boss... And maybe realize that good people make mistakes too.

Edit: The point to leave is when there is a pattern of bad behavior.

>And I thought to myself "Yep, I'm done here". Unfortunately I jumped ship too quickly and found myself in a job I hated, with a manger who (while not as vocally abusive) was just as bad.

One time, long back in my career, my then-boss jumped down my throat in a meeting for no valid reason. I clearly remember thinking to myself, "Is this it? Is this the day I tell this asshole to fuck off, and walk out the front door?" I decided not to, but I was in full-on job search mode the moment that meeting ended. It didn't take more than a couple of weeks before I gave notice. The next job was for less money, but it was basically my dream job at the time. It was the best move I ever made.

There's no moral or lesson to this story. I just thought I'd share it.

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