My (privileged) five-year-old has emotional tools that I didn’t have until I was 25.
I do think we’re generally getting better at raising empathetic kids. It’s not uniform, but it’s better.
They lived in a time where kitchen appliances were a new thing, most work involved manual labour and lots of time. Getting used to hardship and not whining about it was their way of getting through it. Tired? Tough!
There is a balance to be had which I usually sort by "needs" and "wants". There aren't many needs and the rest is a luxury.
Rights are an ideal, privileges are a material reality.