> you underestimate the amount of abuse and harassment that certain groups of people face

While I don't think this point is necessarily wrong, surely we can agree that in recent years there has been expansion of what is considered abuse. As with any push to change ideas, not everyone is on-board.

Is being subjected to a micro-aggression abuse? 20 years ago you'd only get a "yes" from a few activists / academics. Today you'll find a vocal (and growing) minority claiming it is a form of violence.

We don't all agree on the new rules, and CoCs are a method of making everyone follow them.