Tell me about it. I wanted to move a client of mine from a dedicated box to a cheaper, more powerful VPS. They have a monthly newsletter with about 17k subscribers (opt-in, managed by a list server package).
I inquired about their policy, and they pretty much treated me like I was found under a rock. In spite of us running a clean site (I showed the the URL for the newsletter page, and our clean multi-RBL lookup), and they still wanted me to agree to this BS terms-of-service page with such unreasonable terms I dropped the entire idea.
Which is a shame, since the current provider really sucks, from a support perspective, but they've never been unreasonable about, you know, using the internet to send mail to a bunch of people at once.
Between this attitude and rabid mail admins with unreasonable RBL policies (like flat-out rejecting a message for being listed on only 1 of ~40 or so public RBLs -- one that demands money for immediate delisting), I've witnessed a slow Balkanization of the internet over the years.