When I have an issue that's blocking me, if I don't get a response from someone within 10 minutes I'll start reaching out to other people. If I know the first person is already looking into the issue I won't waste other peoples' time.
A way to counter this is by tactfully making your boundaries of availability unabimguously and abundantly clear and intentional where you can. Once you’ve communicated this boundary, enforce it. Defend it with all your might but with discretion for when it may need bending (but not breaching).
No need to carry the burden of guilt or shame because you’re making a deliberate attempt to triage where your attention is going at a given time with so many dings, pings and alerts all yammering for our collective attentions.
I 100% agree with you that setting clear professional boundaries is a necessary thing to do. I am also of the opinion that a big part of that is to not use tattle-chat systems whenever possible, because they actively work against exactly this. Or, to put it another way, refusing to use a system like this is to actively choose to reduce the number of dings, pings and alerts for both yourself and everyone you communicate with. Win-win!
I empathize, while realizing many don't have a say in what system their employer uses, which probably (I'm not sure) adds emphasis to if not further necessitates the clear definition of and enforcement of these kinds of boundaries.
I suspect for many people who are new to working from home to the extent that many of us have been for so long now, deliberate practice of this will be very difficult and a little painful at first. But like exercise of the body, the exercise and diplomatic deployment of these boundaries gets stronger and you learn new ways to use it without injury while reaping great outcomes with the people around you.
I cannot reply to all of them right away. I may be able to reply nightly with a major reduction in productivity.
I know the "seen" is a real issue. Most of the time I need to think about it.
And me personally, I'm offended if someone "sees" my message and doesn't respond. I'm sure others do too, even if I respond within 1 week.
The internet is not IRL. I manage more relationships than would be possible.
After doing that I noticed the function actaully sent the message "etc etc is typing..." and you could change that message to arbitrary strings. Unaltered clients then display the arbitrary string instead of a "is typing" one.
I solve it by configuring slack to send me email notifications and then close the tab. I'll check email only a couple times a day, I'll see it then and open a slack tab to respond, if needed.