Anything you do, the more time you put into it the better you will be. This is true of a workplace, or a hobby. If there is a competition somewhere, more hours with usually translate to higher performance, and moving up in the hierarchy.

This is not a conditioning of the tech world, or even "companies" in the legal sense, this is true of almost an system in the world. I imagine someone working extra hours and hard in the chinese communist party also has a higher chance of moving up.

In fact, not so long ago, it was finance and big banks where people famously slept on the office floor and worked 20 hour days as juniors, and that only got slightly better as you moved up.

Men and women all have a personal choice about how much energy they put into what. That can be your job, your hobby, or your family. You have to choose what aligns with your goals.

Are there differences in goals for men and women? I'll leave that as an open question, as I don't want to get into this controversial area.

But to suggest this is some unique thing to 21st century tech, is not really true. How many hours do you think people spend farming or hunting thousands of years ago?